“Words, after all, are nothing by themselves. They burst into meaning only in the minds they’ve entered.”
In the Author’s words, ‘Maybe you should talk to someone’ is not a therapy book but a story about therapy. And It’s true to these words. Lori is a therapist. And through this book, she takes us through her story and of her four patients, John, Julie, Charlotte, and Rita. I saw a few people calling it a self-help book, which might be interpreted from the title of the book, but instead, it’s a memoir.
To sum up, in one line, it’s about a therapist attending her patients amidst dealing with her own struggle. It’s interesting how she contemplates finding a therapist for herself like any other person seeking therapy. There are five patients in the story. One is Lori herself, who is visiting a therapist to deal with her breakup. She decides to go for a therapy herself when she finds herself in a messy breakup. We are introduced to both versions of Lori, as a patient and as a therapist. The contrast of her behavior and her thoughts in both processes is very intriguing. A reminder that everyone feels the intense emotions, and it’s okay to seek help to manage them better. When Lori goes to therapy, she is self-aware of her thoughts but acts against it anyway, her therapist Wendell guides her to the set everything straight.
“Therapist don’t perform personality transplants, they just help to take the sharp edges off”
The other four patients have very heartfelt narration as well, each one of them dealing with emotions in their own way while struggling with issues of life. I very much liked the way the story is narrated, it’s very well written. There wasn’t a single line that felt out of place. Rarely, I get so hooked to a book, which I adore cover to cover and, this is one of those books.
I know that often people create faulty narratives to make themselves feel better in the moment even though it makes them feel worse over time—and that sometimes, they need somebody else to read between the lines.
Among all the patients, I like John’s character a lot. His personality is most puzzling, and among all the four patients, he is one of the most difficult to talk to. Needless to say, He teared me up the most. The book has a happy but emotional ending, so be prepared to shed some tears. It’s a good book, I would say if you like books like ‘Eleanor Oliphant is completely fine‘ you will like this one.
As the late psychotherapist John Weakland famously said, “Before successful therapy, it’s the same damn thing over and over. After successful therapy, it’s one damn thing after another.”